One of my clients said to me the other day:
“Is there a part of the Natural Business Cycle called "storms and unpredictable weather?”
Ha. Brilliant, I thought. Thank you for encapsulating this universal truth.
Based on my recent conversations with my clients, and from my own life, it seems that more than one of us is going through a particularly stormy time right now.
And whether you’re feeling it in this moment or you felt it last month (or you feel it next year, because it’s going to happen at some point!), I think we can ALL relate to the feeling that outside, uncontrollable circumstances, are putting a damper on our lives and our businesses.
“But, but, but I wanted to…”
You name it. Launch my group program. Get my newsletter out. Plan out my curriculum for my retreat.
But it’s just not going to happen right this moment.
So we feel stuck, like that day we were supposed to be splayed out on a chaise lounge all day in the sun on vacation, but it’s been pouring all day long.
Or like when someone in your family gets sick, or it’s the crazy end to a school year, or your basement floods.
But here’s the thing…
We Have a Choice
It’s true, we can’t control the weather.
But when “life happens,” as it does, we do have a choice about how we respond.
We can control our reaction to the weather.
We can take our juicy novel and curl up on a chair and listen to the rain pour down on the thatched roof, watch the ocean waves get wild, and be grateful we have nothing else to do that day except lounge around, read, and look out the window.
Or… we can mope around all day and blame the rain for ruining our vacation.
Which one sounds more fun to you?!
Finding the Opportunity
So when the storms hit, as they inevitably do, how will you respond?
Here’s a way to make the best of your situation if life’s circumstances are slowing you down:
1. The first thing to do is accept your situation.
Easier said than done, I know. But fighting against what’s actually happening only makes it feel worse (that’s the basis of Buddhism, by the way).
Ok, now you’ve accepted it: “X thing I planned on doing” is definitely NOT happening right now.”
2. So next… Stop beating yourself up for not getting everything done.
Be compassionate with your sweet, busy, aching heart.
3. Finally, look for the opportunity.
Ask the question: “What can I learn from this situation?”
- Is it about letting go and not being so attached to my goals and schedule?
- Is it a reality check about what’s most important in my life?
- Is this an opportunity for me to focus and get super duper clear on what my biggest business priority really is given my limited time?
If you can manage to see it, the stormy weather always brings a gift of clarity. It’s wild and wet and windy for a while (sometimes a LONG while), but then the clouds clear, and the sun comes out.
And a new seed will have begun to sprout.